Monday, December 06, 2004

Death Is

After a three year's battle against Death, he came to take her tonight. But as she was thankful for his blessings last week, she will be grateful again. She just stopped breathing tonight, without pain, without suffocation or paralysis . This morning I woke up to find her hand cold, as they always were the last weeks, but also the rest of her body was cold and she was motionless.
Those who knew her, know that despite that she only became 32 years that had at least double the lifespan. Even in her last months she was active, fully aware of the richness, joy and urgency of life and caring for others as if she was not struck by such a harsh fate.

Those who only got to know her via the blog could experience the same by reading her book. Her book was her literary heritage, the highlight of her intellectual and artistic achievements and next to the love for me, family and friends the thing that made her want to live on, fight, get all out of life. As you will know, it can be bought via her website www.gracechow.info , it meant so much to her that reading it will be the best tribute to her I can imagine.

So now she is dead and as she says: She found peace now. She was not religious, felt most attracted to the Buddhist way of approaching life and death. She wanted to let go, as you should as a Buddhist, of all desires and longings so the soul can find its absolute peace, far from the worries of the world. Still letting go was difficult, she loved me and the world too much. She pitied those who loved her madly, because now we have to live on and deal with the loss while she found her peace.

She will never return and still she will never leave.

Thank you all for reading the blogs and sending her such inspirational, loving reactions. You still can mail me and when I find the time I will answer.

I wish all of you all the strength and love and happiness you can possibly reach. Don't let severe illness take away your pride and positiveness about living, let Grace be an example to all of us.

Ton

362 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ton,

Ik kon het niet laten om weer naar de blog te gaan ook al weet ik dat Grace er niet meer is. Ik heb nog kippevel van wat je geschreven hebt.. Ik denk aan jou, aan Grace en de familie.

Sterkte,

Denise

5:03 PM  
Blogger SarahC♥ said...

So sorry to read about your loss, please accept my sincere sympathy.

I've read this blog from the start and have nothing but total admiration for the way Grace still embraced her life......right to the end.

Again, so sorry,

Sarah

10:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton,

We admire you for your strength and will, despite your loss, to continue Grace's wish to blog and keep her spirit alive in all of us.

Please accept our sincere wishes. We'll be praying for you. And Grace.

With deepest condolences,
Nicholas & Rachel,
Singapore

3:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry to read this. Grace was an inspiration.

10:19 AM  
Blogger Min Min said...

Let her live in your heart. The start of life is the start of death. Everyone will leave one day. Partings are temporary as everyone will meet somewhere some place again. And I believe in that.

2:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences. - D W

3:47 AM  
Blogger mb said...

My deepest condolences.

7:00 AM  
Blogger puffgrrl said...

my deepest condolences...

10:32 AM  
Blogger Re-minisce said...

Godspeed, Grace, and God bless you both - especially you Ton, in your time of grief - My deepest condolences for your loss for what little they are worth.

1:00 PM  
Blogger 330ml said...

best wishes for your next life...

1:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Be strong, as she was.
~ Xena

3:19 PM  
Blogger soci said...

Dear Ton,

Although I have only ever been in contact with Grace via her book I am very saddened to hear of her death and I send my condolences to you.

4:43 PM  
Blogger Terrence said...

my condolences to you. Godspeed to you and Grace, and my prayers are with you and her.

4:48 PM  
Blogger Mizzihan said...

Dear Ton,

I sadden by her leaving but i'm relieved that she had you.

Rach

6:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my deepest condolences
~ fish

2:24 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

She will live on with all those she inspires.

3:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, I'm not sure if she considers death a relief, so whether sympathies or congratulations are applicable, I don't know.

although I'm certain the dying part of it isn't too comfortable.

meanwhile, grace, if you're out there, perhaps you can posthumously prove whether life actually exists beyond death..

in all seriousness.

3:54 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Goodbye, Grace. You have taught me to take nothing for granted. Go well...

Qinghui
Singapore

7:32 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences.

Maybe the big guy up there take her to paradise where she can find peace at last.

Be strong.

10:41 AM  
Blogger Utama said...

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2:42 PM  
Blogger Utama said...

Dying is peacful for one who grace the world. Have a nice day.

3:04 PM  
Blogger rEQ said...

Dear Grace,

I wish you peace where you are now, where the mortal bonds of toil and sorrow can no longer bind your soul...

Dear Ton,

I came across this blog via a link on Mr Brown's blog, and I'm sorry to intrude upon this most private momment of yours.

Regards
rEQ

11:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences..

"She will never return and still she will NEVER leave"

6:16 AM  
Blogger YaP said...

I can only wish i was here sooner than this.
Having read everything backwards,
these are the most meaningful things i'd ever read, and Grace is the strongest person i'd ever came across.

Godspeed

11:02 AM  
Blogger Jennifer said...

On Dying, Day 0, Grace said "And that, perhaps, there will be someone worth telling all this to."

I'm not sure if I'm worth telling this to, but I hope it is something that someone heard and in the hearing, wants to live a little better. Rest in Peace, Grace.

6:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences.

Her strength in facing death deeply touched me. Not many people can face death with such courage. May you rest in peace.

DK
Singapore

7:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences to you and your family.

Thank you Grace, for your writings and reminding us to find the strength to go on even when life seems dark.

2:54 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My sincere condolences. I was reading the website as I too have a Clival Chordoma and can only hope I will have the bravery of Grace if and when the time comes.

Thank you both for the example.

Sharon in NYC

6:05 AM  
Blogger Carmem L Vilanova said...

You will BE forever! Believe me!
Love from,

Carmem Lucia Vilanova
San Jose, CA - USA

8:54 PM  
Blogger mave said...

my deepest condolences.

death is not the end, but the beginning.
according to buddhism, life is eternal, there is no end. given her strength and goodness in this lifetime, she'd bring this good fortune to her next.

and please continue to be strong.

yours truly,
mavis,
singapore.

8:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton,
As strong as grace was, i hope you will be too.
Take pride in knowing that she will be a source of inspiration to many. Let's live for today, and leave nothing to tomorrow.
With deepest condolences
William
Singapore

9:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences to you - the strength both of you showed throughout was remarkable, to say the least, and it truly makes one want to embrace life as she did. I'm sure Grace has finally found peace.

Ryan,
Singapore

5:54 PM  
Blogger miak said...

Ton

her passing diminishes us all

she had left behind a legacy that will touch many for a long time to come.

miak

4:38 AM  
Blogger wn said...

my deepest condolences. i've come to know about this blog through my friend, and i'm really glad that i read it as i've been deeply inspired. She will live forever in the hearts of those who love her.

truly,
WN
Singapore

6:17 PM  
Blogger mental_89 said...

Hi Ton,

its strong of grace to contd life knowing she's going to die. any moment. death has claimed her. allowing her to rest in peace. no more pain, no more suffering.

its inspiring to see someone who's suffered pain, with the knowledge of impending death, and never once blogged about why her. why not someone else.

Take care, be strong.
Samantha
~ Singapore

1:21 AM  
Blogger シャロン said...

My deepest condolences...

The same way Grace found strength in her last days, may you, Ton, find strength too.

God bless you.

Love,
Sharon
Singapore

1:52 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ton, stay strong, she will always be your strength.

Truly,
Calvin
Singapore

2:57 AM  
Blogger shon said...

Dear Grace,

Many of us hardly, if ever, really take time to appreciate life as it is. Not until, should i say, near-Death takes centre-stage. or some wierd disease grips you. It's funny but probably that's what we humans are: We fear only when it comes to the crunch of everything, your future, your hopes, you life. But you showed me that however hard life may go, we should never ever think of it as a waste because life is beautiful.

Shaun.

3:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

amazing grace how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me I once was lost but now am found was blind but now I see

4:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dearest Ton,

My deepest and most sincere condolences. Life is very brittle, to say the least. But, at least Death took her away peacefully, after all the pain and suffering that she had gone through.

I must admit that I had never read Grace's blog before, but, after doing so, I have to laud her for her courage and strength.

Take care,
Alex Chew, Singapore

4:02 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences.

Grace's strength will always be an inspiration to all people and I definitely hope it will be for you, Ton.
It will remain in me for as long as I can live to feel.
Grace, rest in peace.

Jason Toh
Singapore

4:15 AM  
Blogger elin said...

Dear Ton
Commiserations. I am not far in age to Grace (30) and like her is a displaced Singaporean but in Australia. Although she has crossed my life only in death, she has nonetheless left permanent footprints in my heart. Deepest sympathy to you, but take heart that she has touched your life and the lives of many others. Elin

4:21 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

May u rest in peace...

with our hands lifted high we'll worship and sing and with our hands lifted high we'll rejoice and sing and with our hand lfted high to the sky and the world wonders why we'll just tell them we're loving our king...

4:49 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I find Grace's outlook in death remarkable, for I doubt I would have problem coming in terms with when my time arrives.

Ton, take pride and strength in that you have a wonderful wife/friend/soulmate, although her journey has ended, yours is still beginning.

I'm glad that I've read her blogs today, not tomorrow, or in the future. For it has reminded me how mortal we are.

--cal

5:09 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Grace, thank you for this timely reminder on the preciousness of life. I am truly humbled by your bravery in the face of an imminent demise. I look forward to reading your book in the near future. Ton, I salute your strength and resolve in dealing with this loss. Thanks for educating us all, on what an 'undying love' for someone truly means.

5:22 AM  
Blogger xiaoneo said...

take care... and be strong.

truly,
serene
Singapore

5:38 AM  
Blogger jiahui said...

Dear Ton,

Grace's an inspiration~
Stay strong~

My deepest condolences,
Jia Hui
(singapore)

5:49 AM  
Blogger corliss's wonderland said...

Hi Mr Ton,

Jus want to thank you for always being with her and supporting her. I believe that she was able to pull thru so many though situations becos of your love and support for her. she is gone now but she has left behind a legacy in the lives of the poeple whom she touched. Continue to stay strong for her and share her postiveness with the rest of the people who needs it so much. Dying is another beginning.

6:05 AM  
Blogger jarwey said...

When I read "She will never return and still she will never leave", my heart ached because I visioned that you were still holding on to her even though her soul has left Earth. I hope to dream of her someday to ask her where she is now.

6:06 AM  
Blogger roby said...

i wish you happiness ton.
grace is one strong girl, and i salute her for that. take care.

6:07 AM  
Blogger Wilson Cheng said...

So sorry to read about your loss,My deepest condolence to you

Wilson Cheng
Singapore

6:07 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Deepest Condolences

Joseph Liew
Singapore

6:09 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

rest in peace grace.

nickie.

6:20 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi, I read the Straits Times newspaper and came across the article on this. I deeply admire Grace's strength and courage to face death. I pray she will be having a more fulfilled life in heaven now. Best wishes to you, Ton.

xoxo

6:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dear ton,

pls stay strong and tk care.

your truly,
desiree
singapore

6:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

she was so strong to live happily even though she knbwe her time was up, she would also want to see u strong.
BE STRONG!!

6:47 AM  
Blogger Rawkies said...

Sorri for your loss, be strong and live your life like she would have wanted you too. And Grace, Thank You for your lessons in life.

6:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton,

My deepest condolences. I admired the strength of Grace and I hope that this strength will keeps you going and be strong.

May GOD bless!

Sincerely,
Karen (Singapore)

6:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Let the perpatual light shine on her
May she rest in peace
Amen

6:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton,

Remember this
For Life is not the illusion,
Death is

Live Your life well, i know grace would want u to..
this is such a touching story that changed my life..

Again, Deepest condolences..
God Bless both of you..

6:58 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences, you are in my prayers.
-Stephanie Marie Ong (Singapore)

7:01 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I read about how inspirational Grace's blog is in the newspapers. Reading it now makes me believe the editor. I lost a friend I didn't want to lose most about 9 months ago and have since been mourning over the past relationship. I feel so small compared to Grace. My deepest condolences. She was truly inspirational.

7:07 AM  
Blogger scriptureboy said...

I do hope that this does not come across as callous or insensitive, but I am powerfully fascinated with the premise of this blog. My wife is, in many ways, as close to death as anyone can be without being laid up in hospital, so I am fairly familiar with Himself. This, however, goes to a whole new place, and I am all a-wonder.

At the same time, Ton, I am not unfeeling, and I wish to convey my sorrow at the loss of one so dear to you. May Almighty God bless you with His peace and grace, and may you find courage and strength in Him to go on.

7:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I chanced upon this blog through the newspaper this morning. I am turning 18 and you may think what do these youngsters know bout death. I've lost two of my friends and i know. My sincere condolences.

7:32 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton,

My deepest sympathy on the lost of your wife, Grace. She is an extremely strong lady. And I envy Grace for having you as a wonderful husband who stayed by her, loving her all the time. Peace be with her and you take great care! - Joanna/Singapore

7:34 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Condolences from a fellow Victorian.

Ian Lim
VJC, 1988-1989

7:35 AM  
Blogger Poh said...

My deepest condolences
take care

7:49 AM  
Blogger cassidy said...

Life is but an adventure. It is often the journey that inspires.

Grace left 'without pain, without suffocation or paralysis.' She lived life to the fullest even though she was struck by chordoma. She fulfilled her dream by writting her book, A Pain In The Neck. Not many of us have written a book.

While admiring her courage to complete her journey, We send our deepest condolences to Ton, admiring you for your strength and courage shown for the past three years together with Grace. The kind of patience and love that you have shown should speak volume of the kind of person you are. You certainly gain our respect. May the forces be with you.

With deepest condolences,
Cassidy & Diana,
Singapore

7:49 AM  
Blogger kc sim said...

dear Ton,

I am a Singaporean living in Bangkok and only learnt of Grace's amazing strength in facing her destiny in the Straits Times Interactive site. Grace's capacity to love, humour in the face of physical pain and clarity of thoughts have humbled many.

I am deeply touched by the love that bind you and Grace, and hope that memory of all the great times you have spent together helps you overcome your personal loss.

Amitabha Grace - may you live on eternally - free of pain and sufferings. Thank you for devoting the precious remainder of your life to give us all a valuable lesson on the true meanings of Life.

kc sim

7:55 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

deepest condolences..

i read about Grace's blog in the papers this morning. i am thankful God has relieved her of her pain, and through all this, i am also grateful for the knowledge and wisdom she has shared with us. The best things, always leave too soon. He has taken an angel away, but i hope, i know, all those who knew her will only emerge stronger. I, for one, am no longer going to take everything for granted.

I'd like to share this song, it's called "Grace" by U2.

http://a420.v8383d.c8383.g.vm.akamaistream.net/7/420/8383/3b858b51/mtvrdstr.download.akamai.com/8512/wmp/0/120/18240_1_11_04.asf

- love, another Grace.

8:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm deeply sorry for your loss. These few entries are poignant and hard to read without amazement at Grace's and your strength. I can only imagine how hard the last 3 years have been.

But thanks, Grace, for living so deliberately and determinedly. You are an inspiration

Ling

Singaporean in HK

8:16 AM  
Blogger Alvin said...

God bless.

8:25 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im so inspired by grace's strong will to live and to carry on living with this burden that's slowly draining her life away.thank you grace for this blog. thanks for sharing.

8:32 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton,

Im a student from Singapore and has read about Grace's blog in the papers today. She is truly brave and a great inspiration to all.Be brave too, and let her spirit and passion live through you.

8:49 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

By Emily Dickinson

Were natural mortal lady
Who had so little time
To pack her trunk and order
The great exchange of clime --
How rapid, how momentous --
What exigencies were --
But nature will be ready
And have an hour to spare.
To make some trifle fairer
That was too fair before --
Enchanting by remaining,
And by departure more.

From Eve K

8:51 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences...

Read da papers today..went to her blog n' it really inspired me a lot...really touched by Grace strong will..wad a strong person she is..a grest husband she has..May she find peace..

Love, Amanda/Singapore

9:06 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi,
i read the newspaper today and went online to read the blog...i am very touched by how strong grace was, and her fighting spirit with the disease...although grace might have left us...i believe her fighting spirit will always remain in our heart...

best wishes,
jian lin
RSS,singapore

9:19 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi,
i read the newspaper today and went online to read the blog...i am very touched by how strong grace was, and her fighting spirit with the disease...although grace might have left us...i believe her fighting spirit will always remain in our heart...

best wishes,
jian lin
RSS,singapore

9:19 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi,
i read the newspaper today and went online to read the blog...i am very touched by how strong grace was, and her fighting spirit with the disease...although grace might have left us...i believe her fighting spirit will always remain in our heart...

best wishes,
jian lin
RSS,singapore

9:21 AM  
Blogger joy said...

my deepest condolences..
-JOymy ...( singapore )

9:23 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Grace,
You have touched me with your fortitude in times of great adversity. Thank you for making me see the fragileness and value of life such that ill never take anything for granted again. Your strength and character has truly inspired me and made me view life in a totally different light. Though you may be physically gone, im sure your legacy will stay etched in the hearts and minds of the numerous people you have reached out to and touched. Godspeed Grace and rest in peace.

Dear Ton,
I just want you to know that we are all grieving for Grace. Do be as strong as her in this time of need, she would have wanted you to be. I came across her blog after it was published in today's news and i thank her for sharing so much to all of us. My deepest and most sincere condolences Ton.

Yiyang
Singapore

9:31 AM  
Blogger bioanarchism said...

i am saddened to know the fact that barely a month after doing up this blog, the creator has passed away. i share my condolences with all the other surfers who may have stumbled upon this blog, through the media, or perhaps by accident.

ifhgting a disease is real bad enough but taking up the courage to share the experiences of one's encounter with it is harrowing and courageous.

to all programmers and techies, i am one, we always do keep to ourselves when it comes to matters that concern the heart. i salute grace chow for her endearing efforts for a fighting spirit, and from the tiny tropical island of singapore, i believe many of us wish her husband much condolences. she can only stay in his memories and we can only fondly remember her as a woman, and programmer, of great strength.

in time to come, we may forget her eventually, so let us leave a mark here for many others who may, and will, come to see.

9:32 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ALthough i am nhow only 11 going on 12 in year 2005,i read the newspapers about the death of grace.she was strong and did not give up in what she was doing.I am sorry to hear that she passed away but her dreams were always alive!!May she rest in peace.

Love, a girl in singapore schooling in haig girls' school!

9:35 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

sorry about the typing error.it should have been now but i typed nhow!SOrry!

9:38 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am a student in New Zealand, came upon Grace's blog from the Straits Times Singapore. Ton & family/friends you have my condolences & prayers. Thank you for keeping this blog here, it is a huge inspiration. Wishing you all the best in life, & knowing you will live a full life because you have conquered so much of the destruction death brings.

Mel
mudcharm[at]yahoo.com

9:39 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dearest Ton, I know that my words will never be comforting enough to cover your loss. I would just want to let you know how much Grace has inspired me to live life, and to love life. I am deeply touched by her strength to carry on, to live each day to its fullest. Never have I seen a person more courageous to look death in the eye, and still smile. My deepest condolences as well.

I read about this in the Straits Times this morning and I knew I just had to visit this blog. What does a 15-year-old girl know about death, you may ask. I have lost more than 3 loved ones through my fifteen short years alone.

Thank you, Grace, for allowing me to look at life in a different light. In this school holidays, I mutter and complain about the homework, but now I realise having the strength to hold a pen and write may be God's gift in itself. Every new day is another day earned, is what I have learnt from Grace.

Though she had hardly enough strength to type, her inner strength is what awes me. I will never forget this life lesson.

Yours Truly, (another) Grace
Singapore

PS. Ton, I wish you all the best.

9:41 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dearest grace,
im sure you'll see this post, though im not quite sure from where.but i do know its a much better place--beautiful, painless and liberating.
thank you so much for telling your story, you have no idea how many lives you have touched.
indeed death is not the end.
i'd rather not feel sorry for your departure, because i know you deserve to be where you are.you deserve to be relieved of all the pain and distress.
to ton, my deepest condolences.
regards,
js
singapore

9:58 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I happened to came across an article in the newspaper about this blog in the afternoon and her determination and perseverance has inspired me.

T.L.wei
Singapore

10:35 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dear Ton,
i wish you well.
please be strong for she was.
my deepest condolences.
take care

lays, singapore.

10:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

borning into tis world, growing up, turning old and facing death are all part and parcel of our life. everyone had to dies one day,it is just the matter of time. but it doesnt matter whether our lifespan is long or short, for living our life to the fullest without leaving any trace of regret behind is more important!

grace may be in heaven now, but we all should be happy for her. because she has finally struggle herself free from all those painful disease.

through grace, i see the importance of determination. even when all the odds are so against her, still she remain strong with a positive frame of mind and fight against this battle between life and death.

though she did not win this battle but on the other hand she touch many readers' heart. and she shall always live in our heart.

yours truely,
anonymous.

10:38 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i did not know what true suffering was before i came upon this blog. i used to think that i was suffering enough, from the constant pressure my teachers and parents put on me. once or twice, i even contemplated suicide. i'm SORRY i wasted my life away, while she was out there battling Death for it. i'm SORRY i did not value my life, and that i never regarded it as something worth treasuring. but today, your blog will serve as a motivation to me. thank you.

my deepest condolences.

10:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ton

Though she is gone but what she shared is very special and inspiring. I am very touch and have learn to treasure things around me. Stay strong and May God Alway be with you!

Jt
Singapore

11:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton

Glad that she lived. She has inspired me to lead a richer life. Let us inherit her strength to live and die.

11:12 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my deepest condolences

11:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My greatest condolences..

Reading her blog reminds me of "Tuesdays with Morrie" by Mitch Albom. I think Grace was a very strong woman and she managed to accept the coming of death and lived her last days to the fullest. I believe she is a great source of inspiration to others who are fighting with fatal illnesses.

luv,
anonymous

11:58 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton,
i am 17 and like you, is experiencing the pain of losing someone. My mother too died of cancer recently and my whole family n i have been trying to move on and let go. The process wont be easy im sure but life has to go on. Ups and downs will be aplenty but just hang in there and go with the flow. Deal with it as best as u can n time will heal even the deepest wounds. Remember that you are not alone and that you have the support of many others, me included.
Take care and all the best. May we both be strong just as Grace and my mother was. :)

Love, a girl from singapore.

12:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ton,
You had a wonderful, strong and courageous wife. She lived and died with great dignity!!
I would like to share this verse entitled "Ascension".... with you.
"and if I go,
while you're still here.......
Know that I Iive on,
vibrating to a different measure
behind a thin veil you cannot see through.
You will not see me,
so you must have faith.
I wait for the time when we can soar together again,
- both aware of each other.
Until then, live your life to its fullest.
And when you need me,
just whisper my name in your heart,
....... I will be there."

I am sure Grace would have wanted you to know this is but a temporary parting.

I hope that this verse will give you some comfort.

I extend my deepest personal condolences on your loss. She indeed was a great person....

12:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello, I'm a 17 year old student from Singapore and I came across the article in the newspapers this morning, but i've only just gotten the time to read the blog. This blog is truly inspiring. The way Grace handled her coming death is such a remarkable thing. I know i would not have been able to meet death as calmly as she did. Thank you for keeping the blog here for others to read. My deepest condolences to you.

Andrew
Singapore

12:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

altho i dun know her personally, i am touched by her story, inspirational indeed...peace be with everyone

1:00 PM  
Blogger StarryNite said...

Ton, very much griefed u shall feel, many felt it too...
i wish to all stars tonight that may she be happy in heaven and to me, she is like a star shining so brightly like an inspiration to us. She, will be like an angel, watching over many other people.. i'm sorry that she passed on and but she died graciously and in peace. i believe this brings comfort to all of us.

My Deepest Condolences

1:08 PM  
Blogger Melissa said...

Hello,
I'm Melissa, a 14 year old from Singapore. Being a blog owner myself, I know how exciting it is to own one. When I flipped the papers open, I read the article and felt very sorry for both Grace and Ton, her husband. So what I want to say is, rest in peace Grace, may God bless you.

1:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ton,

parting is just temporary. i know you would miss grace. but someday, you'll meet her again somwhere someday.

my deepest condolences,
me.

1:27 PM  
Blogger sunflowr said...

Ton, I am sure she will miss you as much as you will miss her. I've read excerpts from her book via the website and I think, surely she was an incredible woman. God grant you strength. Gud välsigne dig.

Pauline
Singapore

1:30 PM  
Blogger *DEEBZ-// said...

Ton, I read the newspaper today and came across an article about grace....well, life is full of obstacles....you just have to endure with the painfulness....parting with someone you love is just tough...my heartfelt condolences to you.

Adibah, Singapore

1:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So much that I should learn from her... even after death. What else can I say but, am really ashamed of myself - secretly hating everything in life while some were battling illnesses.

Girl from Malaysia

1:48 PM  
Blogger Xiaohui said...

Grace's determination and strength is truly admirable. She is indeed a great example for all of us.

With deepest condolences,
Teng XiaoHui, Singapore

1:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

May she continues living in your heart. Death is a part of living, and only through death, you can accomplish the true purpose of living. You two, husband and wife, shall meet again someday.

1:51 PM  
Blogger xae said...

My Deepest Condolences...

Grace's story has been an inspiration to me... Death is but just another part of life. Glad to have come across ur blog. Live Strong Ton...

Huike
Singapore

2:01 PM  
Blogger Zekai said...

my deepest condolences...

2:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Grace, you touched my heart today. Thank you.

Ton, you please take care.

God bless her soul!

Thomas, Singapore

2:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I chanced upon Grace's blog from The Straits Times Singapore. Indeed, Grace has graced herself for this event, and although it is not graceful, her blog, words and book will always have remnants of her grace. May God bless both Grace and you.

Benedict,
Singapore

2:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my deepest condolences.

Grace L.
Singapore

2:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton,

I really admire Grace and you for the positive attitude u both had throughout this whole ordeal. Reading it is already so painful so im truely inspired by the strong will within you and Grace.Grace will leave in your heart forever so hang in there and move on with life bravely. May the force always be with u..take care :)

anonymous

2:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton,

My deepest condolences to you.
I have also just came across Grace's blog through the newspapers today. She is an inspiration to all and I am sure that she will always remain in everyone's heart.


Rachel
Singapore

2:16 PM  
Blogger Christopher said...

Dear Ton,

Like many other Singaporeans, I came across this blog from The Straits Times Newspaper, Singapore. It was painful reading this blog from the very beginning, till the last post. I offer my deepest condolences and hope that you will be as strong as Grace was.

Indeed, I am only a 14 year old student but Grace has made me realise many truths. She has been a source of inspiration for many, as as such, she will continue living after her death in our hearts.

Yours Sincerely,
Christopher
Singapore

2:42 PM  
Blogger msadik said...

Dear Ton,

My heartfelt condolences goes out to you and all of Grace's family members and friends on their loss.

From reading this blog, I have learnt many valuable lessons that I shall never forget. Grace has been an inspiration to me, to face each and every challenge in my life bravely, which she did.

Again, my hearfelt condolences, and May She Rest in Peace.

Muhammad Sadikin
Singapore

3:02 PM  
Blogger Judy Skye ♥ said...

my deepest condolences go out to you and all of grace's loved ones. grace is a huge inspiration to everyone and we are all thankful for that. God bless.

3:40 PM  
Blogger mangolicious said...

To Ton and Grace,

Your story has been an inspiration and a wake up call to us who are healthy yet living less fully than we could. My most sincere condolences, and may the memory and strength of Grace live on.

3:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm extremely sad that such a strong inspiration and hope to all those who has lost theirs has passed away. Although i do not know Grace personally, and only came to know about her in the newspapers today, i feel such a strong sense of gratitude that Grace has opened my eyes to acknowledge that life is a beauty, and that it shouldn't be taken as a torture, like how i always viewed it.
I hope that Grace has found peace with her passing...

In all sincerity,
anthony

4:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton,

I read about Grace's blog from the Straitstimes only today. Please accept my condolences. But I know you will be strong, because Grace was the epitome of strength. Be comforted that she's in a better place now where there's no attachment and no suffering. I will be praying for you.

Mun
Singapore

4:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To quote a favorite passage of mine, which I think is quite fitting to this situation:

Now, you are family. Okay. All my life, I had a lump at the back of my neck, right here. Always, a lump. Then I started menopause and the lump got bigger from the "hormonees." It started to grow. So I go to the doctor, and he did the bio... the b... the... the bios... the... b... the "bobopsy." Inside the lump he found teeth and a spinal cord. Yes. Inside the lump was my twin.

4:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My Father moved through theys of we,
singing each new leaf out of each tree
(and every child was sure that spring
danced when she my father sing)


-EE Cummings (Tuesdays with Morrie)

Angie From Singapore

4:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Deepest Condolences...

Jaz

4:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton,

I'm sure this song is what Grace would have said if she could talk to you from heaven.

"Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints in snow,
I am the sunlight and ripened grain.
I am the gentle Autumn rain.

When you awake in the morning hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep."

~Libera - Do Not Stand At My Grave and Weep

As Albus Dumbledore from Harry Potter said, our passed loved ones may not be there physically but they'll dwell in our hearts forever. They'll show themselves when you need them most.

Take care Ton, I, like many others, have not been appreciating life. I have been grumbling and taking life for granted these past 17 years. You must have been her pillar of strength to fight on all these time.

God Bless,
Sook Fern
Singapore

5:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton,
Grace is definitely an inspiration..
Im sorry to read your loss... Please accept my deepest condolences
eileen

5:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ton and Grace, I love you both. You have changed the way I see life. My thoughts will be with you both, for a very very long time.
- Admirer from Paris

7:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Rest In Peace

C.H. Tan
Singapore

7:31 PM  
Blogger not_again said...

Dear Ton,
Sending you my deepest condolences. Be strong and take good care..

8:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dear ton,

i have wanted to kill myself for a long time...since i was 11. i'm 16, and will be 17 next year. suicide was a viable, if not attractive option for me to end my troubles and my parents'. i thought that if i killed myself, the widening abyss between my parents would be healed. i thought of, prepared for, killing myself next year. i learnt about grace's blog from the straits times. i couldn't stop crying when i read her posts. despite all the pain she had to go through, she still tried her best to remain strong and steadfast in the face of death. i know, understand what death is like, having tried to kill myself on many occasions by trying to jump off my school building. then i felt the same all-consuming fear of death. i am thankful that grace has set up this blog; reading it has given me the courage to want to live and strive on, regardless of the adversities that lie ahead. thank you for letting us intrude upon this private moment, i sincerely hope that soon you and your families will be able to move on after grace's death and be happy. may God be with you in this time of utmost need, may He wipe away your sorrows and tears and give you courage.

a very big thank you to you and grace for this blog...without i wouldn't find the strength to go on. thank you.

- p.t

8:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ton,

Do stay strong.

Grace will always remain as an inspirational figure in my life.

Stephanie,
Singapore

1:33 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I read this article on straits times singapore, and heard about this piece of tragic news. Parting is just temporary, i believe the two of you will meet sometime in somewhere again. My deepest condolence to you.
Brace up Ton! =)

Li Hui,
Singapore

2:07 AM  
Blogger Green Ogre said...

Thank you for sharing. It must have been heart wrenching. I appreciate the courage and love that took. God bless all of you.

2:20 AM  
Blogger vodka said...

My deepest condolences. I feel happy that she have found peace in her...

3:08 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton,
I've been deeply touched by her blog.
Grace has truly been a strong woman and I believe her spirit has inspired so many people out there. Stay strong Ton as she had been.

Deepest condolences,
Sean
Singapore

3:11 AM  
Blogger rOngrOng said...

We shall remember this brave lady in our heart..

REgards
Lynn
Singapore

3:21 AM  
Blogger dakshna said...

dear ton,
i read the articles about grace's blog in the straits times recently.it touched my heart deeply.i admire her strength.she has also helped me develop a positive attitude toward life and death.i am also really sorry abt ur loss of such a wonderful person.she will always remain an inspiration in my heart,mind and soul.may the good lord bless her soul.

a fren and admirer

3:31 AM  
Blogger Lynn Ryulite ^_^ said...

Dear Ton,

My condolences.I just know this blog yesterday when i read the Sinapore newspaper Straits Times.. I admired Grace strength and positive outlook in life..One of my Aussie friend had cancer too, he just had an op to take out the tumor, and my grandfather has cancer too he dead few years ago... i guess i may able to understand the frustration that the person you cared about is in pain but there is nothing you could do about it. Grace, Rest In Peace... Ton, i admire your strength to be able to go through this...Cheer up, ya? I dont think Grace will want to see you upset..

3:35 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Grace,
Thank you so much for sharing a perspective many of us do not have until it is too late. Like others, I have recently been feeling hopeless about my own life, when I stumbled upon your site and it gave me time to stop and think about how fleeting our time is and how, when it is being taken from us, we desperately want to hold on to every last minute.

Bless you for your kindness in sharing your thoughts with us, and strength to you, Ton, as you move forward in your own life.

3:40 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ton, I am really sorry for your loss. Please accept my utmost sincere condolences.

Thank you, Grace. You have inspired me to live my life to the fullest, despite the many setbacks. Though I do not know you personally, I feel most honoured to make you my role model.

Singaporean Girl

4:08 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Grace,

May you find peace in Amitabha Land.

Although we only have such a short encounter in NUS, but nevertheless we have such a good time in NUS BBS.

You dropped me an email months ago, telling me you are dying but yet, living quite happily in Amsterdam. I am touched because that's how a Buddhist like me wish to die. Unfortunately, my computer crashed, not able to retrieve your email address. You told me that you are also writing a book and I am glad that you have completed it.

And I really must thank you for your encouragement in my seeking path on the uncertain political arena in Singapore. What you chose to leave behind and avoid, I have chosen to fight on. Ironically, these were our lives that we put on the betting table of fate. But I really envy you, being able to die a free person, without fear, regrets and most importantly, with free will. I am still struggling on this little risky and uncertain path in Singapore's politics.

May you rest in peace, my friend. My chantings will always remember you.

Namo Amitabha.

Goh Meng Seng aka Vincent the BEast

4:15 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences... hope u can stay as strong as Grace. Grace had taught me to cherish my life as well as others.. and Grace may not had live by your side but i believe that she will always stay alive in your heart..


love,
a typical singaporean

4:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolescences. Stay strong.

Annz
Singapore

4:58 AM  
Blogger nicol said...

these are the most meaningful things i have ever read, and Grace is the strongest person i have ever came across. Grace had finally found peace.

With sincere and deepest condolences,
Nicol
Singapore

5:14 AM  
Blogger BeginToEnd said...

Dear Ton

I would like to try her cake. It offers so much. Grace has been positive despite her condition. I would like to offer my sincere condolences.

Take care.
JasonN

5:16 AM  
Blogger dreamsofaraway said...

Dear Ton,

Please be strong and take good care of yourself..

5:54 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Grace,

May you find eternal peace.

Jean

5:56 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

By reading this blog, we had realised a lot of meaning towards life. Living life to the fullest allow us to take no regrets when leaving.

Singapore,
Eric and Ching Sian

6:32 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

what could anybody say that could take away your pain? nothing. but still, live like she lived with grace. i think she would want that very much, that you would continue her legacy, which has you in it, that you would continue her love for this world, and her love for you and your existence.

6:47 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my deepest condolences to u..

7:11 AM  
Blogger §tÈþHåÑíÊ said...

Dear Ton,

Im 13 years old this year and I have read about Grace's story in the Straits Times - Digital Life..I am deeply touched by her courage in overcoming her pain that she suffered and yet she takes it silently and does not complain. I do not know if I would be as strong as her if i had this sickness. Grace's story makes me want to cry even though i only know about her today.My deepest condolences to the family. Hope you are well.


Stephanie Chang
Singapore

7:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

After reading the article about Grace in the Sraights Times Dec 20th issue, I was deeply toched by her courage. She is an example to all. To those who are grieving about her, Do not feel sad, because even if she is gone, she will live in your hearts forever. God bless. :)

7:15 AM  
Blogger Love Me For Me said...

My heart-felt sympathy for you on your loss...
Well, at least you should be glad for Grace that she is now in heaven, away from the pain and suffering of cancer.
Do take care...

7:28 AM  
Blogger xg3ns0mad3nx said...

Dear Ton,

I read the article on the straits times and I am really sorry for your loss. I was deeply touched by Grace's courage and she will definitely find peace in heaven. All my classmates and I from Ngee Ann Polytechnic would like to offer our condolences to the family. God Bless !!

Winston (17)
Singapore

7:44 AM  
Blogger Ann said...

I am very touched by your unwavering courage throughout your illness.I read about you in the papers.YOu are a good role model Grace.
Ton,I am sorry about your loss.Grace must have been a great woman.

8:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my deepest condolences..
i hope you could move on with your life..and i believe that's what she really wished for.
take care..

--singaporean boy

8:11 AM  
Blogger Lisa whined a long day said...

May she rest in peace and free from sufferings. You got to be strong, Ton. Take care and will always remember her deep in our hearts.

8:34 AM  
Blogger scarecrow said...

Grace! Bless you... You made me realise what life and death really is... We'll remember you for your courage and your strength... You came into our lives... And left meaningful footprints, which will forever remain as lessons of a lifetime.

8:34 AM  
Blogger kahswee said...

My deepest condolences. Grace has been a great inspiration to everyone. Ton - be strong. Her touching story has encouraged me to take a positive view on life...

XPDude
Singapore

9:35 AM  
Blogger gwx said...

Hi, I am so sorry about her death. But from her death, I was able to pick up some engaging but sombre philosophical facts about life, and death. I've always been thinking about death.. What it feels like. You know, life after death, is there even such a thing! I came to the conclusion... Life doesn't exist after death. Even after reading Grace's blog today, I felt very enlightened, still am afraid of death, but it really provided me with a new perspective onto death. Being 15, I think I have a long long way to go. But death will meet me someday. And grace's blog.. will help me definitely in that encounter. Her englightening words will always remain rooted in my mind. At the same time.. My sympathies to her husband. I admire your strength in watching your loved one go by.

Regards,
Dennis ( from Singapore )

9:58 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi..

I'm a neurologist from Singapore. I was thinking how could Grace have died so fast?? Most of these tumours take 5-10 years to progress to the point of killing the patient.. if appropriate medical treatment is undertaken. In fact, since chordoma is NOT cancerous, you can just remove the part of the brain that has the tumour and you're cured of it.. Unless it resides at a vital part of the brain, that is. But after resection of that part of the brain, radiation therapy ( chemo ) can be given, or stereotactic surgery... Maybe the tumour was detected too late??

10:19 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To Ton:

My deepest condolences. Please remember Grace’s last words that life still has to go on and I pray that you would continue her fighting spirit and live life to the fullest just as Grace has done.


To Grace:

Thank you very much for showing me how precious and fragile life is. Although I have only stumbled upon your blog today, I have read all your entries and it has brought me to tears and shame. Before, I had always considered myself to be plagued with misfortunes and sadness to the point where I had attempted several attempts to end my life. Now, I have realized that what life threw at me was nothing but grains of sand compared to the boulders you were chipping away at. I will always remember all your words of wisdom and press on with my life never to seek death again.

10:19 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

sad to hearr about grace's deathh. grace had let me kn0w m0re about life. a bigg thank y0u to herr. and to ton- be str0ng and live on! grace will f0reva in our heart.

shi yinG
[[ singapore ]]

10:45 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i'm sad to noe this when i saw the newspaper... well...by noeing this, i seem to hav respected u alot and regard u as a tall and sturdy mountain,whrby u r determined to live to ur fullest,continue to get on with life just not to let ur family members worry abt u... with deepest condolences, i wish that u rest in peacee... u inspire mi to be strong regardless of any obstacles in our life, n overcome all these and be determined... ur touching story inspired mi...

Regards,
eRiC liM (singapore)

10:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I wish I was able to read your blogs earlier.

Thanks for your words. You gave the world the strength to hold on to life more dearly and appreciate the way of life.

I hope you have really found your peace.

12:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences.. stay strong..

12:59 PM  
Blogger von chang said...

Dear Ton,

I'm sorry that Grace has passed away and I really admire her courage to live everyday.. she will still be in your heart forever..

Yvonne Chang

1:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dear ton:
u muz be strong... and both of you were very lucky to have each other... my deepest condolences to u... may god bless e both of u.. grace has neva left us and will remain in our hearts as an inspiration..

1:23 PM  
Blogger Uncle Gem said...

My deepest condolences.

1:23 PM  
Blogger Rankorth al' Darr said...

My deepest condolences

1:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Grace has indeed been an inspirations to many people, and has proved that a strong will can overcome even the deadliest illness. Thohgh she is gone, she will always live in our hearts. God bless.

Stephanie

2:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences... She's indeed an inspiration...

Soo chin and Fiona
singapore

3:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences.

3:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i applaud your courage alot!

3:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences...hope you stay strong...

3:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i read the article on malay mail today..and i decided to visit the blog to hav a look...Grace was really tough...Ton..im sure Grace would want u to be tough like her too..my deepest condolence..

3:55 PM  
Blogger Chainer said...

Hey Ton,

Don't be sad about it. She just went to a better world. Though she's dead, I'm she's still living on, in your heart.

4:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sterk ben. Hoewel ik slechts blog vandaag las, betekenend kreeg ik niet de kans om van haar existance te kennen toen zij in leven was, word ik diep bedroeft en geraakt.

Vladimir
Moscow, Russia

4:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

she,
a total stranger to me,
has touched my heart.

and i can feel her braveness.
i can feel it.

though i may not a friend of her.
but,
but,
i will always remember her.
i hope she hears this,
and i know she cans.

reality may be so unfair to her
i'm pissed.
and i'm going to make my goals and life more meaningful, for the sake that she touched my heart.

she really did.

4:31 PM  
Blogger TKH said...

Dear Ton,

My deepest condolences. Grace has shown how there is life in death. Even as her body was failing her her soul stayed strong. I'm inspired by this story, and vry touched too.

Have the strength like her to continue. God bless.

KH

5:10 PM  
Blogger *** Seeker *** said...

i duno who u r and neither u know me.. but i share ur grieve with Grace's departure ...

My deepest condolence ....

5:12 PM  
Blogger YaNn said...

i'm onli 15 this year..Like every single youngster out there, we only want to enjoy life and let time pass, time to me was nothin,until i read the article on Computer Times..

She made me realised, how important life was..
and made mi treasure, every single moment avalible.

and for the next few 15 years of my life..
i'll spend it, remembering how others like her cherish their lifes till the end..

Cheerios for her...
She has been brave..
God bless.

5:45 PM  
Blogger JR. said...

Been reading about Ms Grace Chow from the local newspapers these few days. Finally found some time to sit down and read through the whole blog. I just wanna say thanks to Grace for sharing the wonderful things of her life, regardless of how big or small it is. And at the same time, reminding us the little things which we have missed out due to the hectic lives and society we have now. The surroundings, the plants, the people and animals etc... There are joy and happiness everywhere as long as one can be contented and make the best out of everything.

Thanks Grace, for sharing and being the bright sunshine of life to everyone of us reading your blog.

Ton, I'm sorry for your lost but do be strong and live life to the fullest. That's what Grace did and I'm sure she'd love to see you achieve it as well.


JR.
Singapore

5:49 PM  
Blogger screamingsilence said...

R.I.P

6:02 PM  
Blogger dreamer said...

Grace will always be an inspiration to all of us.

Ton, be strong, cause' one day, we'll all unite in heaven once again.

Thank you for sharing Grace with us.

She will always be remembered.

God Bless,
Jacilyn
Singapore

6:10 PM  
Blogger eLiSe said...

Tears just rolled down when I read Grace's blog right from the start.

I don't know her, but felt so sad for the fragility of life. Admire her for her hopefulness towards life.

We do have many, many things to learn from Grace. May Grace rest in peace.

6:15 PM  
Blogger "s0n|c'C@libr3,, said...

Grace's blog is a real eye-opener for me. Grace is a very strong lady in many ways. She will definitely inspire many.

To you Ton and all her friends and relatives,
Stay strong and take heart. My condolences.

Take care and God bless.

6:28 PM  
Blogger phil said...

seeing the great number of comments coming from singapore, it just goes to show how grace has been such an inspiration to everyone of us. she has inspired a nation.
death is not something we encounter everyday, but grace has taught us to be brave and embrace death with such positivity that when our turn comes, we will remember her strength of mind and character, and that we will take it the way she did.

do take good care ton.

Phil,
Singapore.

6:45 PM  
Blogger starfish story said...

her attitude towards death was inspiring and she has taught valuable lessons to many...

it's amazing how she can remain optimistic and determined to inspire others by maintaining this blog...

her entries touched me and thank you, for maintaining this blog and being strong...

~starfish, singapore

8:56 PM  
Blogger Steven Fuyuan said...

I am gald i read this.. it`s streghten my faith and belief.. to take things strongly and be not afraid of death..to treat life in another way i never thought b4... She`s a person who deserved all the respect.

may buddha be with her..

12:02 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Mr Ton de Vries,
I have read about Grace on the newspaper.I am very glad and sorry to read this.I bet she was wonderful.She was energetic,I can tell.




Regards,
Yihui

12:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Your courage is admirable. God will bless you and your family to see through this difficult phrase.

regards
Jerome

1:09 AM  
Blogger mushroomsoupie said...

only get to view her inspiring blog today.. though i may not know both of ya, i have to say reading her blog changed my views and perceptions to life and definitely is an encouraging life story she shared.. though short lived as she passed on i believe she had lived her life to the fullest.. contented is another skill in live we ought to learn and ppl ard her..u ought to be cuz i did not even have a chance to acquaint her when she is ard .. nevertheless i wish her eternal peace in her another attainment Grace, u passed on gracefully n i shall adore ur blogs n book gracefully too.. u were simply great~!

2:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Ton,

Grace's story touched me a lot. She made me understand the importance of living and even more so that of facing difficulties and challenges in life with courage, hope and love against all odds. I hope that with her words, she will be able to touch more people's hearts and let people understand how fragile and delicate yet important life is.

As Emily Dickinson once wrote:

"My life closed twice before its close;
It yet remains to see
If Immortality unveil
A third event to me,
So huge, so hopeless to conceive,
As these that twice befell.
Parting is all we know of heaven,
And all we need of hell."

I hope she rest in peace knowing how much you care for her. That is the best gift she will ever need and will ever have.


Kelvin See
Singapore

3:28 AM  
Blogger B said...

I send my heartfelt condolences and deepest sympathy at the loss of your loved one.

3:45 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Mr Ton,

thank you for sharing with us Grace's blog. I am only 15 but i am truly amazed by her strength and charisma, even in her dying days. i hope you are coping well, and may God be with you always. God bless, and have a meaningful Christmas, as how you have made our Christmases more meaningful this year.

Mary
Singapore

4:07 AM  
Blogger ]-[Þnő+!q said...

I wish I had found out about this blog earlier. Grace is really such an inspiration. My deepest condolences.

God Bless

Henry

4:09 AM  
Blogger ELLEN said...

I read the newspaper .. read the news about you, felt so sorry for you. God bless ..

4:27 AM  
Blogger jianhui said...

My deepest condolences.
Take care.

5:19 AM  
Blogger JanetLow said...

A dying person's words always mean so much to the living whilst a living person's action always mean so much to the dying...

Dear Grace & Ton,
Thank you for I learn not to take death and life for granted through your examples. Not to forget those who are dear to me as well. I love you, Hubby Han.

Rest in peace, Grace.
Take care, Ton.

6:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My Deepest condolences... God bless..., =) smile -- Be as strong as she once were =)

7:02 AM  

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